Relationship Bullying


“He loves me, he loves me not…” (oh please let the last petal be he loves me). Dating is something that many of us have imagined from the moment we picked hat flower in our garden and wished that our prince charming would… love us. We often closed our eyes in hope that the last petal we would pluck would be “he loves me”. And if it wasn’t, we would start again because something had to be wrong with that flower. Unfortunately, many girls and women who have faced bullying in their relationships have played this game, hoping that no matter how she is treated, it is because he loves her.

Domestic violence is another form of bullying and should not be taken lightly. It occurs in relationships and can be physical, psychological, emotional, sexual and even financial. Domestic violence is dangerous because girls and women are often sworn into secrecy out of ‘love and respect’ for the abuser. One in four women during their life, will experience domestic violence.1


Effects
Women who are victims of domestic violence relationships are likely to experience:
  • Health complications

  • Emotional distress (depression and anxiety)

  • Social isolation

  • Secrecy

  • Suicidal behaviour2

  • Disassociation

What now?
There are a lot of different things that can be done if you are in a domestic violent relationship or know someone who is in a domestic violent relationship:
  1. You are not alone. Understand that there are people around you who want to help.
  2. Tell someone you trust. Speak to someone who you have a trusting relationship with and/or a health professional.
  3. Know your surroundings. Be aware of what is accessible to you.
  4. Have an emergency plan. Store all documents in a secure and private place where you can easily access them.
  5. Call the police.

Domestic violence is a very serious issue that affects the lives of women and girls on a daily basis. Love Our Lives believes that no woman or girl should be abused in anyway. This restoration process is not about how you start, but that you are willing to fight and make it to the end.


http://www.canadianwomen.org/facts-about-violence

http://www.joyfulheartfoundation.org/learn/domestic-violence/effects-domestic-violence

” Take care how you speak to yourself, because you are listening.”    -Unknown